Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. They know their mind can be difficult sometimes and they don’t want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. They choose to push you away before you get the chance to truly show up for them.
So, when you love someone with anxiety, just know that it might be hard sometimes. There might be fights of scenarios they’ve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for. The toughest people usually are.
When you love someone with anxiety, the phrase, "It’s okay,"can never be used enough. It’s two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head.
When you love someone with anxiety, remember — it’s not that they don’t trust you. They’re scared. You say it’s an ex and in their mind, they jump to cheating. You say it’s a friend and in their mind, it’s someone trying to break you two up. It’s not you and your relationship that isn’t trusted, it’s every worse case scenario automatically playing out in their head and they hate themselves for it.
When you love someone with anxiety, please — help when you can but know when you can’t.
They would rather have ten meltdowns, biting off more than they can chew and they will never admit they can’t handle something. They’ll never turn anyone away. And in those moments where it seems like they are going to fall apart and break — just hold them. Help them if you can but know they’re inclined to not ask for help. They’re used to dealing with things on their own.
When you love someone with anxiety, once trust is gained — they’ll love you unbelievably hard.
While uncompleted to-do lists, plans getting messed up, texts going answered, might overwhelm someone with anxiety, if there is something they are good at it’s love. If there’s something they’re strong in, it’s their ability to show you how much they adore and appreciate you. It might take them a while to trust you but once they do their capacity to love you will fill you in ways, you didn’t know you were empty or even missing something.
—kirstencorleyofficial via thoughtcatalog | -c
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